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It’s just been you, your little one, and your significant other for awhile now. You then receive wonderful news that you’re expecting baby number 2. Fears start rushing in but this article helps combat those fears. Having a second child with a toddler is nothing to worry about.
You got into a good routine, adjusted well to parenting, and your child is finally starting to be more independent. Then comes the second greatest joy in your life…the second child.
All of these fears start crossing your mind…
“I’m not going to be able to give either child the attention they need.”
“I’m going to be exhausted.”
“I can no longer sleep when the baby sleeps.”
“My oldest will get jealous.”
“When one gets sick, the other will get sick.” (This one is true, I’m sorry to burst your hopeful bubble, but I’ll get it out of the way now. Your children are bound to pass germs between each other, and it’s a rough time in the household!)
Having a second child with a toddler can bring on worries, but I’m here to ease those worries.
Why you don’t have to worry about adding a second child to your family…
1. Your child will have a playmate!
Obviously, not right away. But as you know, children grow quickly it won’t take long, and your oldest child will soon have a playmate to take the toys!
My son has been desperate for a playmate and I think that was his number 1 reason he was so excited about having a playmate. His neighbor friends had siblings so they always had someone to play with, but not him.
We are there to play with him, but as you know, it’s not possible to always play with your children.
Expect the disappointment when your oldest learns that the new baby only sleeps, eats, and poops the first couple months of life!
2. Your oldest will see the love you have for the new one and match it.
I was afraid our son wouldn’t like his new baby sister and at first, he wanted to send his sister back to the hospital, but it didn’t take long for him to bring a picture home from preschool saying “I’m most thankful for my baby sister.” This put a smile on my face and relief in my heart knowing our son loves his little sister so much.
3. Your oldest will want to help.
You’ll have a little helper this time around with the baby. Your oldest will want to be involved with everything. And you should make sure you let them! Give them a job to do. They’ll be so excited!
4. You’ll have someone to entertain the baby with peek-a-boo while you go to the bathroom!
When you need to get something done real quick, it’s nice because you have a little one who will enjoy the little baby games to play with their new little sibling.
5. Having a second baby with a toddler teaches your oldest to watch out for someone other than themselves.
Toddlers are wild. They run all over the place. It’s still a work in progress here, but our son is learning to be careful, especially around his sister.
I think this is a great sense to have, especially playing on a public playground around other little kids. So many kids run around the playground at the park, not careful of little ones learning how to play on the playground. I want my son to be one of the kids who slow down, watch, and wait if there is another child going slower.
6. It teaches your child independence while you’re busy with the baby.
Independence is ultimately what you’re aiming for in your child. Your child will begin/continue to learn to be independent while your busy. They also learn patience while waiting for help.
Here are other great ways to encourage independence in your child!
7. If you forget something, you can send your oldest to get it.
You’re oldest will love helping! I have had to send our son to grab extra wipes, or another diaper, or the diaper cream while I’ve been busy containing a messy baby! It’s great to have an extra person to run to get something if you can’t!
Definitely, beats bringing a baby with poop running up her back and down her legs, who’s screaming because all she wants to do is crawl away to get the toy that she was so “rudely” pulled away from this toy by a panicked mom trying to contain the spread of feces all over.
8. You get to have joint baths with the two!
You know the pictures, the ones with all the kids in a tub? Yup, we’ve taken them! Of course, this one will wait a little while until your baby is able to sit in the tub, but your oldest will love sharing the tub!
It’s fun to splash around with a partner versus only splashing around alone!
9. Your oldest becomes a teacher to their sibling.
Your oldest will love teaching all the skills they have to teach their new sibling.
Of course, you will be worried about the change in your family dynamics, but soon those worries will dimish and you won’t remember what it was like having only one child.
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